para sa mga mahilig sa bad boy

I was chatting with a friend of mine about this.. ano ba ang allure ng mga bad boy sa mga girls.. andaming girls na ang daling magfall sa mga bad boyish na lalake.. at ang iba pa eh bordering to full blown asshole-ish. Gaya nung bf nung isang friend ko na pinagbayad sya ng meralco.. ano ba yon.. hmmm lets try to put it into perspective..
ay bago ang lahat ..sorry pero very opinionated tong blog na to ..medyo one sided.. disclaimer lang.

Most of the women friends I talked to and who I played shoulder to cry on to told me that they fall for the bad boy type because they feel secure, dahil sa confidence, and dahil daw challenge na papabaitin. Super bihira ang success factor nito.. as in.. Congrats sa mga girls na nagsucceed sa plan na to..pero majority sa friends ko na ganito ang type ayon iyak iyak..tapos makipagbalikan tapos iiyak nanaman.parang sus sakit sa ulo. Tapos pag talagang sumuko na magiging manhater at jaded ssasabihin na lahat kami guys eh ganon.. hellooooo eh sa IT pa lang ang daming babait bait na indi bad boy at ayon masasayaa ang GF hindi jaded. Sana para indi complicated kung gusto nila maghanap ng papabaitin eh di pumunta na lang sa mabait , saved you time na sana magagamit mo pa ang oras for shopping at out of town trips at hindi ka na magaantay ng 3day weekend para makapasyal . Indi ka na rin mamromroblema pakilala at paglaban sa parents.. Pero ayun nga.. me mystique ang bad boys sa girls .. for me parang uminom ka ng mainit na kape.. wag magreklamo pag napaso, eh ayon me mga frappe naman na kasarap sarap. And hindi true rin na good guys ay dull , marami akong goody goody na uber romantic..take for example my friend who placed rose petals sa foot ng apartment nila pag gising ng gf nya nung valentines, or yung isa kong officemate na gusto suprisin ang gf nya by putting her in a photoshoot na matagal na nya gusto. Well iba ang goody goody sa nerdy.. meron naman talagang guys na clueless pero marming hindi na iniignore nung mga nagfofall sa bad boys. I didnt lose a girl to a "bad boy" type na guy, medyo naiisip ko lang yung friends ko na nadali at iiyak iyak. Etong isang friend ko ganon type naging bf na 4 ang anak na panganay.. awa ng Diyos eh natauhan na friend ko at nakipagbreak na.

So heres my point, to the girls who look pass the goodguys. You looked terribly the wrong way , meron good guys who are not clueless, would treat you like a queen, would be a gentleman and more passionate than a pornstar..This guys are the ones who should be representing whenever girls mention "bat kayong mga lalaki lahat ganyan..." Its not all of us are bad, its sometimes the choices we make in life that are bad. If you want to get in a relationship in the premise of changing someone for the better ..join greenpeace.. if not try to get it right the first time.. Here's to us the good guys.

Bakit Ganun?

For some reason I've been meeting women and even old friends who are a bit down on their luck on their men or at least have been wanting more from they're partners lately. Di ko alam kung trend ba to, or baka generation gap or baka dahil madalas girls ang barkada ko lately eh nagiging mas sensitive ako? hmmmm.

Nasabi kong generation gap kasi , believe it or not eh me konting latay parin ako in chivalry, and nung time na may relationship ako (hopefully my ex's could attest) I do my best para alagaan sila.. Mi hindi ko pinagbubuhat ng bag .. and yung ibang friends ko na guys..ganun din. Meron akong friend, maganda, talented, ang BF nya to put it shallowly eh mas maganda sya , pero syempre mas mature naman siguro ang judgement ng friend ko(ill go back to this point in a minute). Nirereklamo nya na her BF doesnt spent time with her.. parang hindi sya prioritize enough.. kinuwento naman sa akin nung friend ko ang frequency ng pagkikita nila.. hindi naman sa point na nakaksakal, actually normal lang and parang not as often in my book. Tapos nirereklamo nya na di daw sila nagkikita , so sabi ko.. eh di paputnahin mo sa yo..ang friend ko eh reluctant kasi baka busy daw and stuff.. so I go back to my initial ideal setup na noong I was in relationships eh pag pinapunta ako ng gf ko eh sorry punta ako.. unless somewhere terribly important eh I have to find time. Plus , from my previous point earlier, from a shallow point of view, ganon kaganda na gf eh di dapat dinidiprioritize lalo nat di naman kagwapuhan ng husto yung guy. Don't get me wrong , ala akong masamang balak dun sa friend ko hehehe. Di nga.

Eto din isang friend ko, ewan ko ba, ang ganda , sexy me boyfriend din na foreigner , pero kung treat sya eh ganun din.. parang for granted or tuwing kailan nya natripan mag-boyfriend mode, Playah baga.. tuwing kailan lang convenient sa kanya mag boyfriend mode..dun lang trinitreat ng tama ang friend ko. Mantakin nyo naman, hinigh blood ako sa kwento nyang ito, badtrip tong friend ko at tagal nila di nagkita , dumaanang anniv and stuff wala.. text lang..biglang nagtext.. nagpapatulong .. pinapabayaran sa kanya ng BF nya ang meralco..HWAT! meralco?! And the sad part is .. my friend did. I keep telling her , if he wants to see you he will go to you.. pero medyo di pa nag sink in sa friend ko hanggang ngayon.. Well paalala na lang ang magagawa ko sa friend ko.

Etong isa ko ring friend ganun din.. and another.. buti nga lang yung iba eh nadidilat na.

Bat ba ganun, eh nung college ako eh nahihiya ako pa na manligaw or makita lang crush ko masaya na ako , nilalagay sa pedestal baga. Ang GF, kahit ako na magbuhat lahat ng bag eh ok lang .. haaay.. generation gap ba ito? Prominent na ba ang 3:1 na ratio kaya ganito... Well I just pray for the happiness of my friends.

Rants: Saw a Love Story

I bought DVD's from my MCS suki , Jasmin and candy, they convinced me to buy Music and Lyrics . As a rule I don't watch love stories or try to avoid them as much as I can as I hate the after effects of doing so.

So I got home and saw this supposedly Art Film Grimm Love. It was based on the incident in germany that I heard on the news a few years ago wherein this guy posts an ad on an internet board looking for someone to eat, and weirdly (in a very sick way) someone answers the ad as someone has this very dark desire to die by being consumed. So the movie Grimm Love tries to show the incidents leading to the actual "Feast" up to the gruesome death of the volunteer. Lots of violence , very dark, very disturbing , oh and did I say very very dark.

So ayon, there I was terribly imbalanced due to the movie, you know that feeling when you saw a weird movie or a movie wherein the bad guy wins? Parang bitin, parang imbalanced ka after. Saw to cointeract the effects I grabbed the only other positive themed DVD I had... "Music and Lyrics".

And so goes , the movie was good, the dialogue was splendid, parang bukas when I talk to the guys in my group I'd like to do it with an english accent after hearing Hugh Grant. Then there were the kilig scenes, a lot of em.. Watching a love story alone , single with the weather so damp because it just rained is not a good idea because of the after effect it leaves, yes it did erase the uneasy feeling but it did leave that feeling of wanting to just hug someone or if lucky.. make out. Im not sad, para lang dang' bad timing. Parang moments baga.

Memo to self , stay away from love stories unless Im on a date or am already in a relationship.