Bakit Ganun?

For some reason I've been meeting women and even old friends who are a bit down on their luck on their men or at least have been wanting more from they're partners lately. Di ko alam kung trend ba to, or baka generation gap or baka dahil madalas girls ang barkada ko lately eh nagiging mas sensitive ako? hmmmm.

Nasabi kong generation gap kasi , believe it or not eh me konting latay parin ako in chivalry, and nung time na may relationship ako (hopefully my ex's could attest) I do my best para alagaan sila.. Mi hindi ko pinagbubuhat ng bag .. and yung ibang friends ko na guys..ganun din. Meron akong friend, maganda, talented, ang BF nya to put it shallowly eh mas maganda sya , pero syempre mas mature naman siguro ang judgement ng friend ko(ill go back to this point in a minute). Nirereklamo nya na her BF doesnt spent time with her.. parang hindi sya prioritize enough.. kinuwento naman sa akin nung friend ko ang frequency ng pagkikita nila.. hindi naman sa point na nakaksakal, actually normal lang and parang not as often in my book. Tapos nirereklamo nya na di daw sila nagkikita , so sabi ko.. eh di paputnahin mo sa yo..ang friend ko eh reluctant kasi baka busy daw and stuff.. so I go back to my initial ideal setup na noong I was in relationships eh pag pinapunta ako ng gf ko eh sorry punta ako.. unless somewhere terribly important eh I have to find time. Plus , from my previous point earlier, from a shallow point of view, ganon kaganda na gf eh di dapat dinidiprioritize lalo nat di naman kagwapuhan ng husto yung guy. Don't get me wrong , ala akong masamang balak dun sa friend ko hehehe. Di nga.

Eto din isang friend ko, ewan ko ba, ang ganda , sexy me boyfriend din na foreigner , pero kung treat sya eh ganun din.. parang for granted or tuwing kailan nya natripan mag-boyfriend mode, Playah baga.. tuwing kailan lang convenient sa kanya mag boyfriend mode..dun lang trinitreat ng tama ang friend ko. Mantakin nyo naman, hinigh blood ako sa kwento nyang ito, badtrip tong friend ko at tagal nila di nagkita , dumaanang anniv and stuff wala.. text lang..biglang nagtext.. nagpapatulong .. pinapabayaran sa kanya ng BF nya ang meralco..HWAT! meralco?! And the sad part is .. my friend did. I keep telling her , if he wants to see you he will go to you.. pero medyo di pa nag sink in sa friend ko hanggang ngayon.. Well paalala na lang ang magagawa ko sa friend ko.

Etong isa ko ring friend ganun din.. and another.. buti nga lang yung iba eh nadidilat na.

Bat ba ganun, eh nung college ako eh nahihiya ako pa na manligaw or makita lang crush ko masaya na ako , nilalagay sa pedestal baga. Ang GF, kahit ako na magbuhat lahat ng bag eh ok lang .. haaay.. generation gap ba ito? Prominent na ba ang 3:1 na ratio kaya ganito... Well I just pray for the happiness of my friends.

More Getting Over Tips

In Connection to from a blog I did nung may ata if i'm not mistaken. For some reason, as my friend Lea told me, I've been hanging out with girls who are currently recovering from broken hearts. Like my friend Lea, and just recently my styllist friend , buti yung isang model ko kinuwento nya on the rocks palang sila, and yung isa ko pang model friend and singer cool off sila ng bf nya..hopefully by this time ok na uli sila. Well ok na rin ako para nakakatulong din ...sabi nga thats what friends are for.. plus hopefully nakakatulong ako sa kanila sa mga payo and getting over techniques or at least naaliw naman sila just enough to get them to their next day without being sad. Tanggap ko rin na when they do get back together or find their next partner eh bihira mo na makikita like what happened to my soulmate and I guess ganon din naman when I do get into a new relationship..di na ako always there physically for my friends in need (no pun intended).

So eto na.. Ill try to recap from my old blog and add some new one's...Getting Over or Anti Lungkot Techniques. To make this work, acceptance is key , accept that you are feeling lonely or something about to make you sad isa about to happen and you WANT to fight it , thenand you must treat these techniques like a tool and use them depending on the occasion.

1. Once you have verified that there is no hope for getting back together, ACCEPTANCE is key. Accept also that hoping will just make it worst and should the first thing you lose. In the shawshank redemption morgan freeman said that "Hope is a dangerous thing, it can drive a man crazy in a place like this".

2. Start calling that person if you are still in contact with him , Dude or tsong, or lolah, or hoy..or oypst... para dahan dahan rin masanay ka na di na kayo ganon ka close.

3. The easiest, erase that persons name from your YM and cellphone. Pagpinadalan ka ng quote at joke.. burahin mo na lang, wag ka ng mag reply ng hehehe in hope na sasagot pa sya. Not unless talagang funny yung joke well dapat eh iforward mo sa akin para me pambala ako sa mga nagpapadala sa akin. Kung sunod sunod ang padala sa yo aba me meaning yan ...its either gusto nya mag renew ng communication as friends or baka maybe more!!! So test mo.. why dont you ask ?.. try sending a simple sweet text... "Pwede pasa load?" ...pag malaki pinadala nya syet promising!! pag P5 lang.. wag na no.

4. Of course , do not watch love stories or listen to love songs..kasi after a while makakarelate ka or kikiligin ka kasi after non definitely you'll feel sad..nakakainggit...dati bad trip D'Anothers lang nalungkot na ako... Of course kung me kickass lovescene eh pwede na din.. pang compensate. Syet makikita mo si Brad este Angelina..ahahay.

5. Keep Busy!!! No idle time leaves not time for the mind to wander. Kung wala ka magawa...sa bahay namin kailangan ng tagalinis..promise its very very effective in getting over heartache.. try mo!

6. If you see the persons in your workplace or nearby , you meet him/her in the corridors... I just thought of this last week... Nagka momentary relapse ako..so what I suggest is think like Ally Mcbeal, yun bang whenever some thing happens biglang nagkaka background music.. kailangan pag masasalubong mo sya you must act COOL, CALM, COLLECT, think like a hearthrob , be the Iceman or Icequeen, parang gagawin mo syang casper at dadaanan lang sya tagusana ng stare mo.. kaso mahirap so this is the key ingredient ..play a Barry White Song in your head or better yet as I told a friend.. play Ice Ice Baby .. start with the Bass dundundundugudundun tapos ice ice babeeeh yung pabulong pa..basta play mo lang sa utak mo... either matawa ka or lumakas ang confidence mo. Winner both ways kasi kahit matawa ka magisa iisipinnya sya ang pinagtatawanan mo.

7. And of course Pray, plus stay with friends, Friends will be there to make you strong , and get you through until the next one comes.