para sa mga mahilig sa bad boy

I was chatting with a friend of mine about this.. ano ba ang allure ng mga bad boy sa mga girls.. andaming girls na ang daling magfall sa mga bad boyish na lalake.. at ang iba pa eh bordering to full blown asshole-ish. Gaya nung bf nung isang friend ko na pinagbayad sya ng meralco.. ano ba yon.. hmmm lets try to put it into perspective..
ay bago ang lahat ..sorry pero very opinionated tong blog na to ..medyo one sided.. disclaimer lang.

Most of the women friends I talked to and who I played shoulder to cry on to told me that they fall for the bad boy type because they feel secure, dahil sa confidence, and dahil daw challenge na papabaitin. Super bihira ang success factor nito.. as in.. Congrats sa mga girls na nagsucceed sa plan na to..pero majority sa friends ko na ganito ang type ayon iyak iyak..tapos makipagbalikan tapos iiyak nanaman.parang sus sakit sa ulo. Tapos pag talagang sumuko na magiging manhater at jaded ssasabihin na lahat kami guys eh ganon.. hellooooo eh sa IT pa lang ang daming babait bait na indi bad boy at ayon masasayaa ang GF hindi jaded. Sana para indi complicated kung gusto nila maghanap ng papabaitin eh di pumunta na lang sa mabait , saved you time na sana magagamit mo pa ang oras for shopping at out of town trips at hindi ka na magaantay ng 3day weekend para makapasyal . Indi ka na rin mamromroblema pakilala at paglaban sa parents.. Pero ayun nga.. me mystique ang bad boys sa girls .. for me parang uminom ka ng mainit na kape.. wag magreklamo pag napaso, eh ayon me mga frappe naman na kasarap sarap. And hindi true rin na good guys ay dull , marami akong goody goody na uber romantic..take for example my friend who placed rose petals sa foot ng apartment nila pag gising ng gf nya nung valentines, or yung isa kong officemate na gusto suprisin ang gf nya by putting her in a photoshoot na matagal na nya gusto. Well iba ang goody goody sa nerdy.. meron naman talagang guys na clueless pero marming hindi na iniignore nung mga nagfofall sa bad boys. I didnt lose a girl to a "bad boy" type na guy, medyo naiisip ko lang yung friends ko na nadali at iiyak iyak. Etong isang friend ko ganon type naging bf na 4 ang anak na panganay.. awa ng Diyos eh natauhan na friend ko at nakipagbreak na.

So heres my point, to the girls who look pass the goodguys. You looked terribly the wrong way , meron good guys who are not clueless, would treat you like a queen, would be a gentleman and more passionate than a pornstar..This guys are the ones who should be representing whenever girls mention "bat kayong mga lalaki lahat ganyan..." Its not all of us are bad, its sometimes the choices we make in life that are bad. If you want to get in a relationship in the premise of changing someone for the better ..join greenpeace.. if not try to get it right the first time.. Here's to us the good guys.

The Voice of Love

Napansin nyo ba sa radyo, kapag me binabasang love letter, palaging meron distinctive tone or style to do it. Parang super serious, heartfelt , at makadurog puso tuloy ang sulat. Yung techinique na mabagal babasahin , tapos medyo low tone ang voice ,with longer than usual pause with super soft voice.. mala Joe the Mango ba. Siguro kahit ganito ang sulat "Dear Kamote, hayup ka, magbayad ka na ng utang mo , ibalik mo ang binili mong gourmet tuyo! hindi kita malilimutan!" tapos babasahin ni Joe the mango ng kanyang trademark soft voice with pauses and accent eh parang maiyak iyak ka habang pinakikinggan mo eh. Wala lang napansin ko lang.

More Getting Over Tips

In Connection to from a blog I did nung may ata if i'm not mistaken. For some reason, as my friend Lea told me, I've been hanging out with girls who are currently recovering from broken hearts. Like my friend Lea, and just recently my styllist friend , buti yung isang model ko kinuwento nya on the rocks palang sila, and yung isa ko pang model friend and singer cool off sila ng bf nya..hopefully by this time ok na uli sila. Well ok na rin ako para nakakatulong din ...sabi nga thats what friends are for.. plus hopefully nakakatulong ako sa kanila sa mga payo and getting over techniques or at least naaliw naman sila just enough to get them to their next day without being sad. Tanggap ko rin na when they do get back together or find their next partner eh bihira mo na makikita like what happened to my soulmate and I guess ganon din naman when I do get into a new relationship..di na ako always there physically for my friends in need (no pun intended).

So eto na.. Ill try to recap from my old blog and add some new one's...Getting Over or Anti Lungkot Techniques. To make this work, acceptance is key , accept that you are feeling lonely or something about to make you sad isa about to happen and you WANT to fight it , thenand you must treat these techniques like a tool and use them depending on the occasion.

1. Once you have verified that there is no hope for getting back together, ACCEPTANCE is key. Accept also that hoping will just make it worst and should the first thing you lose. In the shawshank redemption morgan freeman said that "Hope is a dangerous thing, it can drive a man crazy in a place like this".

2. Start calling that person if you are still in contact with him , Dude or tsong, or lolah, or hoy..or oypst... para dahan dahan rin masanay ka na di na kayo ganon ka close.

3. The easiest, erase that persons name from your YM and cellphone. Pagpinadalan ka ng quote at joke.. burahin mo na lang, wag ka ng mag reply ng hehehe in hope na sasagot pa sya. Not unless talagang funny yung joke well dapat eh iforward mo sa akin para me pambala ako sa mga nagpapadala sa akin. Kung sunod sunod ang padala sa yo aba me meaning yan ...its either gusto nya mag renew ng communication as friends or baka maybe more!!! So test mo.. why dont you ask ?.. try sending a simple sweet text... "Pwede pasa load?" ...pag malaki pinadala nya syet promising!! pag P5 lang.. wag na no.

4. Of course , do not watch love stories or listen to love songs..kasi after a while makakarelate ka or kikiligin ka kasi after non definitely you'll feel sad..nakakainggit...dati bad trip D'Anothers lang nalungkot na ako... Of course kung me kickass lovescene eh pwede na din.. pang compensate. Syet makikita mo si Brad este Angelina..ahahay.

5. Keep Busy!!! No idle time leaves not time for the mind to wander. Kung wala ka magawa...sa bahay namin kailangan ng tagalinis..promise its very very effective in getting over heartache.. try mo!

6. If you see the persons in your workplace or nearby , you meet him/her in the corridors... I just thought of this last week... Nagka momentary relapse ako..so what I suggest is think like Ally Mcbeal, yun bang whenever some thing happens biglang nagkaka background music.. kailangan pag masasalubong mo sya you must act COOL, CALM, COLLECT, think like a hearthrob , be the Iceman or Icequeen, parang gagawin mo syang casper at dadaanan lang sya tagusana ng stare mo.. kaso mahirap so this is the key ingredient ..play a Barry White Song in your head or better yet as I told a friend.. play Ice Ice Baby .. start with the Bass dundundundugudundun tapos ice ice babeeeh yung pabulong pa..basta play mo lang sa utak mo... either matawa ka or lumakas ang confidence mo. Winner both ways kasi kahit matawa ka magisa iisipinnya sya ang pinagtatawanan mo.

7. And of course Pray, plus stay with friends, Friends will be there to make you strong , and get you through until the next one comes.